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Candle Lighting Rituals

Candle lighting rituals add a lovely symbolic feature to a wedding ceremony. Below are some examples of Unity Candle and Memorial Candle Ceremonies.

Candle Lighting Rituals


Candle Lighting Rituals

Important Tips:

  • Make sure the candle/s is/are within a jar of some sort as there's nothing worse than a memorial flame going out during the ceremony.
  • Use tapers for the candle lighting.


Memorial Candle Lighting

A Memorial table could be set up with photos of the deceased person/s and the candles lit there. Alternatively, the Candles could be lit on the signing table or the Altar.

Example Wording A:

Before we begin our celebration today, Mabel and Fred would like us all to take a moment to remember those family members who are with them today only in spirit, especially ________________. 

Mabel and Fred appreciate all of the love and support ____________ have given them throughout the years and would like to take a moment to remember them now with the lighting of these candles.

The light of their memory can never be extinguished in the hearts of those who loved themm.

Example Wording B:

Although death has separated us physically, faith and love have bound us eternally.

Though we cannot see you, we know you are here.

Though we cannot touch you, we feel the warmth of your smile, as we begin a new chapter in our lives.

Today we pause to reflect upon those who have shaped our character, molded our spirits and touched our hearts.

May the lighting of this candle be a reminder of the memories we have shared, a representation of the everlasting impact you have made upon our lives.

Example Wording C Verse:

Although we cannot see you

We know that you are here

Smiling down, watching over us

As we say “I DO”

Forever in our hearts

Forever in our lives

And so we say our vows in

In loving memory of you

This light shines

as a symbol of life

and love remembered.


Unity Candle

Usually the Candles are light on the signing table or the Altar area if one is available.

Example Wording A:

The lighting of these family candles symbolises __ and __ separate lives and pasts before today (bride and grooms mums light the candles). Through the love, support, wisdom and guidance they have both received from their families, they are here today to join their lives as one.

__ and __, with the light from your family candles, unite the two flames into one (bride and groom light centre candles). The unity of this flame symbolises the union of your families and your separate lives, into a commitment made in love and kept in faith. The two of you now have a fire that represents love, understanding and the future. It will give you warmth and happiness through even the darkest times. This new fire represents a new beginning, a new life and a new family.

Example Wording B:

Love is like an eternal flame,

once it is lit,

it will continue to burn for all time.

(by Frans Candles)

Example Wording C:

Soft mists embrace two golden flames,

Alone they search the night.

Two souls adrift in dreams of love,

They seek to claim the light.

The path is long from which they came,

But sure they are it’s right.

Two flames embrace in dreams of love,

Two Souls – Two Hearts Unite.

(By Harold Douglas)